Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Well, everyone else is doing it...

I guess I'll get back on the blog bandwagon. I'm interesting enough, right? RIGHT?!? Well, maybe not, but I have ideas about things & I like to tell them to other people so they can let me know if they're right or if I'm totally full of shit & I need to take a step back. I try to have the "take a step back" conversation with myself all the time, but I feel like it's not nearly as effective as the same conversation OUTSIDE my own head.
Anyhow, I'm a very lucky lady who has wonderful friends, a loving guy & a deep-down-he's-really-good-I-swear teenager. And hey, I do stuff and have ideas I want to share with you guys, too.
The first one is this: I think I give people the benefit of the doubt WAY too often. At least, people I know. (Politicians and Top-level executives are pretty much all jerks until proven otherwise). I really WANT to see the good in people. I want to believe that they'll do the right thing, even if they've done the WRONG thing a million times over before, even if they are proven liars, if I love them, I want to believe the things they say. I know if I don't want to get hosed, I should be more skeptical--that I shouldn't trust nearly as much as I do. And yet, this goes against everything I want to be--someone who is loving & who believes in the best in people, someone who trusts my intuition because it DOES carry me pretty far a lot of the time. How do I reconcile those two seemingly irreconcilable ideas?

2 comments:

  1. Don't stop...believing.
    No, but really, don't. It's part of what makes you an idealist! And not jaded about humanity! And kind-of a hippie!

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  2. I think about this a lot... because I'm the other way. I usually don't expect the best from people, don't trust people, etc. and I want to have a little more faith :)

    My high school's motto was "Expect The Best" and my Dad (longtime art teacher at said high school) decided to express his view on that by making buttons that said "Expect Nothing". I really like that idea... but it's easier said than done!

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